Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

if lament match...it will be a joke....anyway even if lament match...maybe it is more to his Jc life

Bro,

U also hang around jc area?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Happywheel

what to do ..we will loan him some $$ but won't expect it will be return

but there won't be second time...hope u can pull thru otherwise more sad things will follow

god bless him

Once the gal got his way this time, many many times will come in the future. I think the gal's whole family is shaking legs in the province waiting for her to send money home to feed them. When they succeed this time, their legs will shake even harder and your friend will need to send more money to them soon

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

Very sad to hear that vn gals suffered like that.

For those bros who are interested, i found this piece of old news on the internet:

Vietnam bride: I was tortured
STARVED, PIERCED WITH NEEDLES, CUT WITH KNIFE
IT is a shocking tale of abuse.
12 June 2004
IT is a shocking tale of abuse.

The Taiwanese man allegedly pierced his Vietnamese bride's fingers with needles and soaked her hands in salt water.

He also allegedly shot rubber bands at her eyelids and used a wooden pole and knife to hit and cut her back.

After less than a year of abuse, Liu Cheng-chi, 39, allegedly abandoned Ms Tuan Jih-ling, now 20, at the side of a road.

Ms Tuan was allegedly confined to the house and given one meal a day, reported Apple Daily Taiwan.

In a year, she shrank from a slim 40kg to just 20kg.

Liu apparently inflicted all this pain on his bride because he believed she had given him a sexually-transmitted disease (STD).

This tale of revenge was revealed in a Taiwanese court recently, as Liu and his ex-wife Lin Li-ju, 34, who allegedly helped him in the abuse, were put on trial.

They are charged with enslaving and abusing Ms Tuan, who has since recovered from her injuries.

It all began when Liu and Lin, who have a daughter together, were desperate for a son.

Lin apparently decided Liu should take another wife. The couple divorced and Liu went on a matchmaking trip to Vietnam, where he met Ms Tuan.

Upon his return to Taiwan, he felt unwell. A doctor told him that he had a bacterial infection but Liu reportedly suspected that Ms Tuan, who had been a hostess in a hotel previously, had given him an STD.

Ms Tuan moved to Taiwan in April 2002.

It was only then she realised that Liu and Lin were already divorced but were still living together with their daughter.

Just three months after she arrived, Liu and Lin reportedly started torturing Ms Tuan.

The torture came to an end only in February 2003, when Liu and Lin are said to have become worried that they might kill Ms Tuan with their abuse.

That was when they allegedly abandoned her at the side of a road.

Ms Tuan stumbled into a restaurant and begged for a meal.

A police report was made and she was sent to hospital.

Liu appeared in court wearing a monk's robes and reciting Buddhist chants.

He claimed to be mentally ill.

However, after investigation, the authorities concluded that neither Liu nor Lim were mentally ill when they inflicted the torture.

If found guilty, they could be jailed for up to seven years.

[SingViet]

"My Husband Is As Old As My Grandfather!"


Dao Mai is 21 years old, the youngest girl in her family. Her mom’s business in Vietnam failed and the family was suddenly plunged into debt. So Mai did what she felt a dutiful daughter should do: she went into the city and signed up with a marriage broker. Mai knew this would mean she may never see her family again, but she could not stand idly by and watch her family’s situation deteriorate.

Mai was eventually “picked” by a 66 year old Taiwanese man who came to Vietnam, like thousands others before him, to find a bride. Of the thousands of dollars that exchanged hands between the man and the Vietnamese broker, Mai’s family only got US$133. The family used up the money, and then some, to travel to the city for the marriage ceremony. But Mai hoped to be able to work once in Taiwan and send money home to help her parents and siblings.

Mai arrived in Taiwan in June 2004. Immediately after her arrival, she was locked up in the bedroom. Her husband then kept her naked, forbidding her from wearing any clothes during her entire incarceration. As he takes his regular dose of Viagra, he would force himself upon her, starving her until she gives in to his demands. Sometimes he would beat her when she resists his advances. On the 9th and 10th days of captivity, Mai’s husband beat her so constantly and so severely that she escaped.

The policeman who found Mai took her to a domestic violence shelter, where she is currently residing. Hospital records showed that she had numerous bruises and that she had contracted a sexually transmitted disease. However, the police claimed they do not have enough evidence to prosecute her husband. Since her husband refuses to divorce her, her case languished for months.

Eventually, Mai heard about Reverend Hung through another victim at the shelter and contacted him for help. Our office took her to the Legal Aid Foundation and secured her a pro bono lawyer. Her case is still on hold.

* The victim’s name has been changed to protect her identity

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

For those bros who are interested, i found this piece of old news on the internet:

Vietnam bride: I was tortured
STARVED, PIERCED WITH NEEDLES, CUT WITH KNIFE
IT is a shocking tale of abuse.
12 June 2004
IT is a shocking tale of abuse.

The Taiwanese man allegedly pierced his Vietnamese bride's fingers with needles and soaked her hands in salt water.

He also allegedly shot rubber bands at her eyelids and used a wooden pole and knife to hit and cut her back.

After less than a year of abuse, Liu Cheng-chi, 39, allegedly abandoned Ms Tuan Jih-ling, now 20, at the side of a road.

No wonder my ba xa say Taiwanese man are not good. Marry to Taiwan will be working like slave. When a Taiwanese man look at her, she avoid as fast as possible.

Mai was eventually “picked” by a 66 year old Taiwanese man who came to Vietnam,

I was staying at Khach San Cua Voung (if i still spell correctly)at District 5 (Near An Dong). Many Taiwanese man was there for matchmaking. Every morning can see Taiwanese and few young viet gals and agent at the breakfast table. Can see really old old man still looking for vietnamese wife. From the look and dressing of the viet gals, can know that they don't stay in hcm.

I remember my ba xa tell me that $2000 can marry a wife in vietnam already. Thats why many Taiwanese come here to matchmake.

[Torres_Mok]

It is indeed very sad to hear this kind of stories! I don't know whether any vietnamese gals hv been tortured in spore. I hope not, if yes, it will bring shame to us, spore men!

We sporean men are like ambassador of spore, we should take good care of our vietnamese wife if we have one, so our reputation as sporean men in vietnam will be good!

[milfmilf]

One mother wrote to ZhaoBao about their viet daughter-in-law

The family spent $14k to get a viet wife for the quiet and conservative factory operator son through agency and flew over to vietrnam to choose. She did not like those girls because they put on thick make-up. However her son chose one 22 yrs old so LL they accepted and brought her back to SG. Then nightmare starts as this viet girl keep complaining headache and found little tumor in the head and have to see doctor frequently. Sekali after 1 yr plus she ran away with their cash and electronic stuff like Digital camera and likes. Worst she found her son hasn't have sex with her cos she keep complaining not feeling well.

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

One mother wrote to ZhaoBao about their viet daughter-in-law

The family spent $14k to get a viet wife for the quiet and conservative factory operator son through agency and flew over to vietrnam to choose. She did not like those girls because they put on thick make-up. However her son chose one 22 yrs old so LL they accepted and brought her back to SG. Then nightmare starts as this viet girl keep complaining headache and found little tumor in the head and have to see doctor frequently. Sekali after 1 yr plus she ran away with their cash and electronic stuff like Digital camera and likes. Worst she found her son hasn't have sex with her cos she keep complaining not feeling well.

This is a sad story involving a sporean man. I hv to admit that been a sporean man is very tough! Majority of our sporean gals think that we sporean men are conservative, mummyboy, dare not take risk and KS, so our sporean gals look for SWM! So sporean men look aboard for wives!

Been nice, gentle and responsible sporean men hv always been a set back. Foreign gals start to take advantage and climb over our head.

Recently a case involving a man was constantly hit by his indonesian wife and also accused him of raping her. The indonesian gal also hv bf outside! Her husband become a cuckold! ended up the husband kill his wife, and was charged manslaughter!!

There is a saying that I always believe; 'man not bad, woman don't love'

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

Bro,

U also hang around jc area?

Long time ago....in area 51....

now very rare u see me there...even go also for awhile...just to refresh for the sake of it

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

Long time ago....in area 51....

now very rare u see me there...even go also for awhile...just to refresh for the sake of it

So when I c u, I consider very lucky?

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by naemlo

So when I c u, I consider very lucky?

Vang.....

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

One mother wrote to ZhaoBao about their viet daughter-in-law. The family spent $14k to get a viet wife for the quiet and conservative factory operator son through agency and flew over to vietrnam to choose. She did not like those girls because they put on thick make-up. However her son chose one 22 yrs old so LL they accepted and brought her back to SG. Then nightmare starts as this viet girl keep complaining headache and found little tumor in the head and have to see doctor frequently. Sekali after 1 yr plus she ran away with their cash and electronic stuff like Digital camera and likes. Worst she found her son hasn't have sex with her cos she keep complaining not feeling well.

Its either the son is damm stupid or the vietnamese lady is damm clever. In any country, there will surely be both reasonable and unreasonable people. For bros who have vietnamese spouse or planning to have vietnamese spouse, you have to be in charge of the finances. If you let your wife take charge of the finances, you will bleed to death. Once her family members start telling her they need money, there is high chance that she will withdraw the money and send it back to her family. I have been controlling the finances of my family since i married my wife. if she wants something, i will buy for her. Normally her wallet will have only S$100. Even the VISA i gave her has a credit limit. Not that i don't trust my wife, but i don't trust her family

[Torres_Mok]

For those brothers who hv vietanmese spouses, are your property under joint names with your vietnamese spouses

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

For those brothers who hv vietanmese spouses, are your property under joint names with your vietnamese spouses

My 5 room flat in Singapore is joint name with my wife as she is already PR. With joint tenancy, i can enjoy the initial $30K from HDB. My properties in Vietnam are all under her name, but with my name as sponsor on reverse side of title deed. My wife already brained washed by me already, so i don't worry too much about her family members in vietnam nowadays. But for other bros who still need time to develop trust on your vietnamese spouse, its better to be the only owner of your property. Let time develop trust between you two

[milfmilf]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

For those brothers who hv vietanmese spouses, are your property under joint names with your vietnamese spouses

today Sunday times has an aritcle on this topic. Bros can go read up and keep it under your pillow

Actually i quite worry about how the women charter can affect me if got foreign wife. But seems like it has little impact if the wife did not contribute much all along. At least a bit fair to the man.